On my blog roll, there is a site listed “Just My Thoughts”. It belongs to my husband’s oldest daughter. On this site, she writes about her father’s illness, her children and other things that are close to her heart.
One of entries was about her fear of loosing the memory of her father’s voice and how she lost her “Protector”. She calls and emails from time to time, but, as for many, the contact with me causes her pain. I am the remenant of her father and the hurt is just too much to bear.
She mentioned that others have memories that she does not have. Some are good and some are not so good. I posted this comment on her blog.
You knew the real person that lived inside your dad. He didn’t allow many to see this side, but you did and he wanted you to know him.
Yes, you are the same artist and lover of beauty that he was. He couldn’t live without music playing in the house. He was always looking for that inspiring sight that he recorded deep inside his soul. As with you, his innermost being was that of an artist.
I believe that, had he been granted the wish to live his life over, he would would choose to be that long haired “hippie dude” playing the bass violin in the symphony orchestra…a true bohemian, who would have thrilled to the sounds of music created by the orchestra every night.
He would have sculpted the wonders around him and yes, he would have ridden his Harley as his primary vehicle.
Like a diamond, he was so multi faceted, and you, dear heart, are a part of that flawed but, brilliant gem.
I am coming to terms with the lack of his presence. I can imagine him riding a moonbeam or I can see him standing before God’s throne singing the songs of the Redeemed.
Never forget, angels cannot sing about being redeemed. They can never know, as a personal experience, the price of sin and its effects on our human life.
You father knew the experience of redemption. Your father knew exactly from what he was saved and how much he was forgiven.
Regarding those things that people remember about the dark side of your father’s life, unfortunately, they may not be able to know nor can they comprehend this miracle. It is their loss.
Your father knew all of the things that are remembered by others. Now, he knows his freedom to be all that he was created to be.
I lived with him during his metamorphasis and that is why I am so confident in the man that was renewed.
Even in sorrow, I can rejoice that your father left this world a wonderfully changed person He left a completed man….He was REDEEMED…and God has welcomed him with open arms…
It will forever be my privilege to have known the man before redemption and after it. I loved both men and I am the richer for it…so are you, Dear-heart..You are the fruit of the man that lives on. Your children are the testament to his life…
As I thought more about the man that my husband became, I realized that it was not me, not circumstance, not anything of this earthly life that caused him to become that wonderful man.
It was a “Saving Grace”, the unmerited favor, of his God that penetrated his heart and caused him to finally become what God intended from beginning of the foundations of this earth.
He did reach this final goal.
I believe all of us are doing the same. We are on a lifelong journey to discover and to become what our Creator designed us to be.
My husband was a loving and caring man. He was a concerned and compassionate father. He was a man who could not allow a day to pass without praying for those he loved.
He was the man that said, ” Oh, Lord, let there be nothing between You and me.”
It must be have been hard for his oldest daughter to hear what others said about her father. Those who once knew him but never knew him as the finished product can never comprehend the change in him. They knew the “old man”. They never knew the “new man”.
As Jesus said to those who were amazed by the miracle of Lazarus rising from the grave, “Loose that man and let him go”. That is what I want to say to those who only remember the man he was. “Loose him and let go of what was, he is not the same man.”
He is no longer bound by his actions of the past or the opinions of others. He no longer must pay the consequences for his actions and choices. He was loosed from those things that bound his heart and soul for so long. He is finally free to love without fear.
It is sad that there are those who will never see the miracle of a changed life because they insist on holding on to the pain and anger of the past. Little do they know that they are running the risk of becoming one as a person bound in grave clothes… tied to past pains and old resentments.
While it is human to bear resentment and grudges, the human soul cannot live with long remembered pains. Should we refuse to forgive, and hold onto to these past hurts, these resentments can become a great price that is paid on the alter of “dead” issues.
They can hang like a millstone around our necks. The longer we refuse to let them go, their weight increases with bitterness. . As bitterness grows, it eventually crushes the life out of a person.
No one can bind my husband any longer. I like to imagine him riding a raindrop as he once rode his Harley. If that isn’t fast enough for him, I can imagine him riding on the tail of a gas filed comet. In my mind’s eye, I see singing in the choir of the Redeemed.
I fail to understand why our human condition continues to look for him here? He is no longer held down by this world. He is free…and he is at Peace…
This man loved Christmas. I have no problem imagining him singing the original songs of the Heavenly Hosts. I can hear him sing along with the Angels as they sing their songs of comfort and joy to the shepherds.
It brings me joy to think that he is celebrating with the original angelic throng who sang God’s announcement of
” Peace On Earth, Good Will to Man”.
As the final moments of this Christmas Day come, I wonder, if, I listen carefully, maybe, I can hear his sweet tenor harmonizing with God’s angels?.
He has every reason to sing. He will gladly lift his voice and join in the heavenly celebration because he knows that, we on earth, are remembering that his Savior was born…Somehow, this brings me comfort. I am doing my best to have a good Christmas….I wish you all a Merry one.