In the past couple of days, I have received two awards one from Crone and Bear It and now, Stephanie’s Place.
Both of these wonderful ladies honor me and I am so humbled by their kind words. I have a hard time understanding that my journey and my writing strikes such a cord within them. It leaves me speechless. (Those that know me would find that hard to believe.)
The first award is from Stephanie’s Place. I read her blog because I totally understand her struggles with loving a man and the children that he has with someone other than herself. It reminds me of my own “step mother struggles”. Those years were some of the best and the worst years of my life. But, how could I not love those that are a part of my husband’s flesh and blood…for Stephanie, and for me, love came naturally.
Of course, with these children came the trials and tribulations of dealing with the birth mothers. Like me, Stephanie has two birth mothers. This can be quite a nightmare and the custody issues seem to be like a freight train bearing down on you all the while, you are tied to the tracks…
I love reading her blog and of her deep love for these children. Her sacrifice is no less than if she were their natural mother, and yet, she is viewed as a party that has nothing invested in the legal preceding. Oh, how well I remember….
The second award is from “Crone and Bear It”. Linda’s blog always brings a smile to my face. She has a pithy wit and a wonderfully humorous way with words. The comments that she leaves on my blog are full of concern and kindness to me. I enjoy reading her blog for all the selfish reasons. It makes me smile. And, Lord knows, I need to find a smile on the days when all I feel is heartbreak.
I am to pass these awards forward, but the problem is that I read many of the same blogs that they do, so this is going to be a little difficult.
1. the price of love
This site has helped me face my present journey. Road’s posts allowed me to envision the future loss of my husband and give the hope of internal fortitude to face my recovery from great devastation. Roads not only lost his wife to cancer, but he was left with being a single dad raising children the ages of 2 and 11 months. What a challenge!
Roads is ten years past the loss of his 33 year old wife to breast cancer and his perspective is so helpful for me. The timing of his memoirs was in sync with my real time journey. There were moments that it was so uncanny and I was astounded as to how I would be living the very stage in which he would write about his beloved Jenny.
His blog continues to help me walk through this Valley of the Shadows. I cannot thank Roads enough for writing down his journey. The stages of death and dying and then the recovery from his loss are a huge part of my own personal path to recovery.
2. Within Crepusculum
Frank’s musings and contemplations of aging are reflected as he cared for his vent dependent mother. His love and devotion to her goes beyond words.
I love Frank’s stories of his childhood. His Midwest roots are my own. We have shared so many similarities that we have wondered if we are somehow siblings separated at birth.
3. I love Frank’s other blog “Four Chances .
On this site, he posts his poetry and stories of his military service in Vietnam. He also shares his love of all things culinary and the stories of when the cat ate the birthday cake made me roll with laughter. His writings on both blogs are a treat for me. I devour his writings as if his words were a delicious dessert of chocolate cake. Through these blogs, Frank has become a dear blogging buddy.
4.. At Twilight
This site is wonderfully written blog by Jonas. I marvel at his wordsmithing. I find his posts are akin to being in a great art museum surrounded by brilliant colors and exquisite beauty. Jonas is such a gifted talent and he is like one of the great masters who crafts masterpieces every time he writes. My favorite post is about how he hid in a church to listen to the master’s touch as he played the pipe organ. His prose takes you into the moment and then into the music with a crescendo of rapture. I am never disappointed when I visit his site and I leave inspired by his magic.
5. Nichole3’s Weblog
Nicole3 began her blog with the idea of sharing her Orthodox faith. A few months later, she was diagnosed with breast cancer and her journey began. Of late, her blog has been an outlet as she journals her husband’s recent brush with a failing heart and the wonderful care of Vanderbuilt Hospital.
Nichole’s site is also full of her love for her children and grandchildren, her admiration for the Amish and their way of life and her wisdom of living on a shoestring budget.
Nichole has been one of my original blogging buddies. I was always touched by her signing of the comments left on my blog with “Your friend, Nicole”. She may never know just how much I needed to see that phrase, “your friend”. She truly has become one the first Internet friends that I made on my blog.
6. Sparkle’s Search for Happiness
Lonnette is an author that does freelance work. Until very recently, her time was consumed for caring for an elderly mother who suffers physically, but also emotionally. Her journey is so familiar for my generation. We are sandwiched between the tasks of finish raising our own children and caring for our aging parents.
Her recent struggles are with the realization that her mother could never give what she did not have and that was ” mother’s love”. Lonnette writes of her heartbreak and happiness in reclaiming a life that was sacrificed on the alter of narcissism. Her site is full of insight as to how to deal with toxic relationships between a parent and a child.
As you can see, the blogs I read are varied and full of issues that apply to my life. I am so thankful to these people. Their willingness to be transparent has offered wisdom, encouragement, empathy and true delight.
Well, I know that I was to pass these awards along to 7 people. It seems that I have fallen short of that goal, but I am including Stephanie and Linda, the originators of these blog awards as recipients as well.
It is my understanding that each award winner is to pass these awards onward to other worthy bloggers. We grow by learning from each other and I believe that these authors are a great foundation to build upon.
I hope those of you who drop by my blog will take a few minutes to see what I am talking about these wonderful sites. I am so very blessed to have found my community of bloggers. I am greatly appreciative of each person behind the blog.
All who meet me here give me so much more than I could ever give to you.
Thanks for reading and for commenting as I journey on through the Valley of the Shadows…